u stuck wit the wrong person.......u shud move on in life .......i guess he is not worth it......if he was he would not have got this kind of response from u

.......i guess he is not worth it

Firstly how do you know its a "he",secondly what response are you talking about???Its just the flipside of a relationship,nothing wrong with it.................

Well, you should bring it up with your significant other...tell them your concerns and see if you two can work it out. If it's driving you crazy and you keep it all in, it's going to explode and that may screw over everything beyond repair. Start talking about it now and if you can't work it out...well, maybe it's not a good relationship.

~Zoo

tell them your concerns and see if you two can work it out

it's going to explode and that may screw over everything beyond repair

Thanx a lot zoo,but trust me wont let it get to the point of explosion.

Here is AD's two cents.

I can tell you are male and the better half is female.

Women are communicators. They like to .... well communicate. Silence to women is brutal they need to have interaction and when they don't it is a sense of insecurity. This is how women are wired in general (yes there are a few exceptions).

The other thing I see is communication on a different level. I'm refering to love languages. By what you have explained to me I think she is a 'Quality Time' type of gal (where Quality time is primary language). Where communicating to her is about spending quality time or conversing is what speaks love if you will. It's the investment of talking. I also see that this is not your language. I would suggest (like Zoo here) to sit down and communicate on a more listed level. What do I mean? Ask her what things that you do make her feel loved the most. Work with her to come up with a Top 10 list and start working on the first five. It maybe something simple like sending a text message to her just letting you know you are thinking of her to a simple random call to see how she is doing.

Sound to me like you have the desire to love her just need a game plan or plan of action. Only she can be your most useful tool.

I may be wrong but this is my guess with the information presented.

Let me know if I am on track or off base.

Sound to me like you have the desire to love her just need a game plan or plan of action. Only she can be your most useful tool.

Ya, i think thats right.very useful.

Ask her what things that you do make her feel loved the most. Work with her to come up with a Top 10 list and start working on the first five

I will try hard and do that,but tell me,what if Im incapable of it.I mean i want to give it all, but what if I cant deliver the expected??

I can tell you are male and the better half is female

Nope.

I will try hard and do that,but tell me,what if Im incapable of it.I mean i want to give it all, but what if I cant deliver the expected??

There are two pieces here. If they 'expects' you to do them you are doomed to a guaranteed failure. If they see you trying to make the relationship work then there is hope. See if they are truthful with you then as you do these things there will be a reciprocation too. If it is just an expectation than quite honestly you will just learn where the heart of this other person is.

I get a sense that there might be some jealousy coming from the other person. I would be quite leery of this. Investigate it a bit further in depth. There is healthy jealousy and unhealthy jealousy.

Ya, i think thats right.very useful.

Glad something was

If my phone is busy,it does not mean I'm talking to my hot neighbor,i could be talking to my boss or my sister for all you know.

Now THAT would piss me off if that accusation was flung at me! If my wife said that I'd tell her "ya caught me! As a matter of fact it WAS my hot neighbor."

Dude, that's bullshit. I'd tell her to chill on her jealousy trip or get the hell out.

This person sounds like they want to control you. Do not allow that to happen. Every person needs their own space no matter how close they are.

This person sounds like they want to control you. Do not allow that to happen.

Exactly.

I get a sense that there might be some jealousy coming from the other person. I would be quite leery of this. Investigate it a bit further in depth. There is healthy jealousy and unhealthy jealousy.

what if the whole "jealousy" part is the persons intrinsic nature???
What does one do??stop doing things that give vent to this natureor just completely ignore it and let the things be??

Now THAT would piss me off if that accusation was flung at me! If my wife said that I'd tell her "ya caught me! As a matter of fact it WAS my hot neighbor."

Tried that,oooh COLD WAR ,and the silent treatment.

This person sounds like they want to control you. Do not allow that to happen. Every person needs their own space no matter how close they are.

You're right Jennifer,but when people tell me that in a relationship you gotta learn to accomodate,exactly how much should one do,and whats the thin line between compromise and taking shit????